If you are uncertain about whether you need marriage counseling, a good indicator is looking up an article about marriage counseling. If you have to have problems in your marriage it would be better not to wait to seek professional counsel. Allowing problems to fester also give room for resentment to breed and the problems and issues that you are your partner are dealing with only get more knotted up and hard to detangle. Finding the right counselor is always a good first step, you’ll want to find someone that has experience in the counseling you need and is a good fit for you and your partner.
However, before you start seeking counselors its best to know whether you, in fact, need marriage counseling. To understand whether you need help in your marriage from an outside source you can reference common problems that have caused the need for other couples to seek counseling. Marriage issues arise from situations such as: getting married at a young age, parental divorce, contempt or anger towards your partner, addition, infidelity, abuse, poor communication. These are hitting only a few possible reasons why you may feel you need help in your marriage. It doesn’t mean your problems aren’t solvable or that you should be rushing to a divorce lawyer. If you don’t have healthy means of creating conflict resolution, good communication you may find yourself on a fast track to divorce
You may wonder what kinds of couples go ahead with marriage counseling. These couples include those that are willing to address and fix their own flaws. You a likely to see younger couples entering counseling because they have seen the divorce of their parents and wish to avoid that and create a healthier marriage for themselves. You’ll also see marriage counselors visited by partners that still love each other and those that are open to compromise and change. Those who benefit less from marriage counseling include partners that have waited too long to seek counsel, partners that are already resolute in their decision about divorce, marriages where an individual is unwilling to change or addiction to drugs or alcohol.
There are many factors that go into making a marriage healthy and prosperous and also many that allow it to decay. Addressing issues early can help you and you’re loved on to navigate these uncertain waters. It can be a space where you learn healthy ways of addressing issues and conflict resolution. It can also be the space where you learn how to have a stronger love and friendship with your partner that helps to create a happier union between you both. If you are struggling with issues in your relationship, its best not to wait. Hesitating instead of getting counseling could mean derailing your relationship further. Once that derailment happens it can be much harder to get yourself and your partner back on track.
If you are interested in scheduling a free consultation with Dr. Yvonne Thomas Ph.D. call 310-359-9450. Dr. Thomas has 20 years of counseling experience and has flexible office hours to help you schedule an appointment.